Maybe:
- They only have little issues, and they talk them over instead of arguing.
- They may be very similar- in terms of their personalities
I think, personally, that getting in a fight with someone and getting through it completes your getting-to-know-them. Until you have seen them mad, you don't know a person fully.What do you think of couples that never argue?
Probably, they have discussions, rather than arguments. Discussions in which there are no accusations, no anger, no frustration. Just sitting down, calmly voicing thoughts, and together working out the best solution for both of them. I have a relationship like that with my boyfriend. That's just the kind of person he is, and the kind of person I am, melding together to keep away anything like arguments, let alone fights. We just gel like that. That doesn't mean we don't have disagreements. We have those as often as the next person. Nor does is mean we aren't communicating, because the second we feel irritated or something we pause, analyze it, and fix the root of the problem. Its just how we personally deal with things. And it doesn't necessarily even mean that we have a better relationship then most people either, it is just how we handle problems with each other. I've had relationships where I argued when I was irritated, and those aren't necessarily worse. But I have a great relationship with my boyfriend, and I like the even keel that not arguing gives us.
I have been married for 33 years....or is it 34? Anyway, we fought like prize fighters our first year of marriage. (Two first borns, both Leo's, both type A personalities.) We had some really bad, knock down, drag out fights. It was horrible but the make up sex was extraordinary.
Since that time, we rarely have fought. We realized that it did no good, and we have the ultimate love and respect for each other. We have learned to compromise, avoid each others ';hot buttons'; and embrace our differences, which after all these years seem negligible. Now, don't think we didn't have points of disagreement, we did but we never ';fought'; but rather worked on the issue together. I guess we both realized ';fighting'; is pretty childish and unproductive.
The bottom line is we learned to ';compromise'; rather than fight and each of us give 110% to the relationship. One of my gf's is big time into astrology and she said this is the hallmark of two Leo's together. (they can't do enough for each other) and she's right.
I like not arguing. My first marriage was exhausting. After about 5 years of being yelled at all the time I started yelling back. I don't much care if I never have another argument.
My wife and I have never raised our voices at each other. I can't remember our last argument. We had a very calm argument a few years ago, but there was probably something since then. Sometimes we have different opinions, and we negotiate or capitulate, but we always get along. It's quite possible with two easygoing kind people.
So, in my case, I think we're the happiest ones. :)
I'm sure they have their little bickers every now and again. My husband and I don't argue either. I don't hold anything in, I just bring it up or he will bring up whatever is bothering him, and we talk about it. We will occasionally bicker about something stupid, but it doesn't turn into an argument. People have asked us what we argue about and we don't have an answer either. We don't fight, we talk.
I don't think people that do argue are necessarily unhappy either (although some have to be miserble if that is all they do). Different couples have different way of communicating. As long as you keep it fair (no name calling or playing the blame game), I think it's fine.
I personally think it is impossible to never argue. It would not be healthy for a relationship to keep things inside all the time. It's possible that they may argue in private when nobody else is around. I can't imagine how they could live together and never have disagreements, that's crazy to me! I can tell you from my experience that my husband and I argue and we are very happy together! Just my opinion...
Usually either the husband or wife allows things to slide by without debate. They do it for the sake of harmony. Often on major things like buying a car or a home they might disagree. Usually the wife will decide about which house to buy and the husband agrees. Each will usually decide what car they want to drive. I'd say they are happily married if things run smoothly. But they said the same about Scott Peterson and you know what he did to Lacy Peterson and their unborn son.
I have a cousin who had this and they just recently got DIVORCED. I've never heard of this though only with my cousin and him marrying his HS sweetheart. She wanted a divorce and now they're divorced. That's what I think of couples who don't fight....good luck.....hopefully no divorce which probably will happen. sorry to be so honest.
It's because of differences that you fight. One does it this way and the other does it that way. If you have no differences, maybe you married your brother or cousin...ewwww. who knows. My husband and I have our differences thankfully........because if not, I'd think I married my twin or be bored to tears. I'd see my husband likes pizza too and does this same and that same. It would be the same as being a single woman by myself. I imagine. Maybe I'm wrong though. lol.
I think something is wrong with a relationship like that. Either they are really fighting in the privacy of their own home, have no communication, or just don't care. All ppl have issues, doubts, and thoughts- it's just whether or not they choose to discuss them. Some ppl are so afraid to have an arguement that they would rather keep it all bottled in. These are the ppl who end up getting a divorce when you least expect it. I could never be with someone who didn't speak his mind. How boring would that be?
Me and my boyfriend never argue, we tell each other everything too. I have been in relationships before where we did nothing but argue and I have never ever been happier than I am right now with him. We just get along so well and trust each other completly so we never really fight. I think I have been in only one fight with him in our relationship and it only lasted a short time.
Some people don't feel the need to say with words that they are dissatisfied with something. They just let it go.
Others feel the need to say something or it will eat them from the inside out.
People are just different. I don't think one if necessarily happier in their marriage than the other.
they would be the ones you'd have to ask.
some ppl don't consider what they have as ';arguments'; and others don't disclose too much about what happens behind close doors. does it mean an arguing couple is more or less happier than one whod doesn't....? that's up to them to decide %26amp; disclose.
They're frontin- every couple has their ups and downs-but thats what makes the relationship stronger...i think that they are in happy relationships, but they have to have disagrements sometime....i'm in a happy relationship and we have lil arguements once in a while....but i'm still happy...
My sister and her husband really never argue.
They talk about things.....and then compromise.....they've been happily married 22 years.
My husband %26amp; I argue about every 5-6 months and we've been happily married almost 33 years.
Every couple is different.
Their not holding it in... they are damn liars and tell everyone they don't fight but in all acuality behind close doors they probably can't stand each other. Those who say their relationships are perfect are those trying to convince themselves that there are no problems when really there are!
honeslty i think that they're holding things in if they dont argue.
i'll agree and say that you dont know what goes on behind closed doors, or the guy or girl is whipped.
agrueing is actually good for a relationship...believe it or not
My husband and I hardly ever argue, now. But we went through years of BS when he was a druggie and so on, but now we have settled into a groove where we almost never have anything to argue about, it takes work, it doesn't just happen.
My husband and I never argue or even disagree. We are both very happy.
Why be with someone you argue with constantly? Find someone you can be happy with.
you dont say how long theyve been married but i doubt it will last twenty, thirty, forty years or more like that. sure, they can get along for the most part. thats how me and my husband are.
maybe they are cut from the same cloth, its good when you dont argue i will say though ive never seen a relationship without it lolol
Good luck to them
If they dont argue i think thats a good thang.. but, in a way they could be holding thangs back from each other too.. maybe there meant to be with each other and thats y they get along
Personally I think arguing is immature beyond words.
it is obvios that they are cheating on eachother is it that hard to notice that?sheesh.
They are WEIRD!!!! Unless, they have sound communication which is a rarity.
they dont exist. they just dont argue in your presence.
Some people are meant to be, you know that they're compatible that they get along so well. I think that's what it is.
they don't argue in front of you. they probably argue when they are alone. not a big deal
They dont have a real relationship then!
you don't know what goes on behind closed doors.
i think there hidding things from each other.
i think that they are blessed with like minds. :)
or hes whipped. lol
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