When it relates to couples.How can i help?

What kinds of issues are most often presented?


What communication approaches are used and how do they vary from those used for working with individuals or groups?When it relates to couples.How can i help?
With couples, its always better to be a mediator.....allowing both couples to have their say...your role is to direct the conversation, so it doesnt get out of hand....thats all you do. As a mediator, your role is to get the couple talking honestly. Your role also is to explain the rules beforehand.....no abuse, no name calling and you will stop the conversation and re direct them to a more efficent way of communicating with each other. In a group setting, the same think kinda applies, you just let the people talk about their experiences....its more interactive allowing everyone in the group to share their experiences.....ask questions....how they feel, how they dealt with a particular situation because a lot of the other group members will get ideas from the way other people deal. In a group setting you have to know when to stop someone from talking and allow another person to talk. Your role in any kind of counselling situation is to listen, possibly re-direct and get the person to work out what the problem is. Your role as a counsellor is not to decide for that person what their problem is. Counselling is just another tool to empower a person to come to their own conclusions. When a person needs counselling, it means they have lost the power to make a decision....you have to give that back to them. One rule of thumb though, never, ever assume that there are deeper issues.....we usually know there are, but always deal with the problem the person first discusses with you....the deeper problems will become clear as time moves on, but the person will let you know that themselves.





To best way to help a person in trouble is to allow them to see themselves as a capable person. Allow them to regain their power. Your role as a helper is getting them to help themselves....getting them to know they do have their own power to change their lives. If you tell a person what their problem is then you are not empowering them....they have to work that out for themselves....with your help of course.





You just have to be open and honest and totally non-judgemental. Sometimes you dont even talk about their problems, sometimes you just talk about anything....that person needs to gain a rapport with you first...they need to know they can trust you. They will be sussing you out too, so it will be the way your present yourself that will determine how well you will be able to help that person.





I hope I have helped a little.