Is it normal that couples feel bored with each other after 20 years of marriage?

You can look on it as bored, or you can look on it as comfortable. Depends on how bad of a mid-life crisis you're looking to have.





Yes, there is a point in most marriages, where you're bored. The thing is, you can ';un bored'; the marriage if you want to. Put some effort into doing things together, and trying new stuff.





Do things you always wanted to try..and things you never wanted to try. Take dance lessons together. Hold hands. Find things that make you laugh together.





You have 20 years together..you've probably been through some really rough times. Suddenly, things are probably easier. The kids are growing up, and you're not struggling as hard. The stresses that glued you together are less. Suddenly, life is boring. No..it's just gotten calm. THIS is what you worked toward all those years.





Now, is the time to re-learn how to enjoy being together.Is it normal that couples feel bored with each other after 20 years of marriage?
It takes two to tango, and if you let your relationship get boring you are at least 50% resopnsibleIs it normal that couples feel bored with each other after 20 years of marriage?
Normal, yes. However, you might want to ask what can be done to get past the boredom. You have been with your spouse long enough to know that the excited, ';butterflies in your stomach'; feeling that brought you together doesn't last. Boredom doesn't have to either. Just like you worked to maintain a successful relationship for twenty years (kudos :-)), work past the boredom. Talk to each other and I'm sure you will come up with ideas to spice things up a bit.
It can be especially after the children have gone.Many couples look at each other and realise that they are strangers and have nothing in common anymore and separate. For others it just gets better.
After 20 yrs, sometimes people get so used to each other they fall into a comfortable rut. You need to bring excitement back into your marriage. Go on weekly dates. I'm talking a real date, like a nice restaurant, movie, picnic, walk in the park. Just like when it was 20 yrs back. Don't just go out to your usual coney island. Pretend like this is a new relationship for you. You have to impress each other. Good luck.
I don't know about other people. But I celebrated my 19th anniversary recently and I can honestly say I don't want to be with anyone else, and I never regret marrying my husband. And he says he feels the same.


We've never had a boring lifestyle, though. That might be why.
No that usually happens after 1 year or so. That fact that you made it 20 is pretty good
I have a very short attention span. Hell I get bored within seconds let alone years.
I think it's quite normal. Therefore It is important to be creative and try different activities, or go back to dating so that you wont be bored of each other. Write down a list of things that you want to do but never got the chance and see if you and your partner can do them. :)
I would like to think that i wont be bored with my man after 20 years but i think its important to spice it up %26amp; not get stuck in a routine. That could be the start of being bored after a while.
If you feel bored why not spice things up ? Start taking each other on dates , spend more time doing things together . A relationship grows stale when there is no attention given to it and it takes both of you to make it not boring .





Give each other little love notes in unexpected places . Call your spouse and say I Love you at unexpected times . Have a romantic dinner at home and lavish attention on each other . You have made it this far and there is obviously love there so do not give up on it now . A marriage takes work , and it takes two to make it work so work at keeping it from being boring .Good Luck and God Bless
Experiencing boredom is simply a symptom of an issue that is deeper, it is a call to understand what it is that makes you happy in a relationship.


In defining this, you might consider taking the time to really look within you, and look at the rleationship you have with yourself. Often, due to the busy life-styles we have, we suppress or ignore our own needs, our likes and dislikes, and what it is that really excites us, and stirs our passion. In this suppression we are neglecting our own self-love, self-support, and self-growth. When we stop growing in a vital exciting way, we stop feeling that life-force, the synergy that creates the new-ness and fresh-ness of all things positive. In fact, we are in a pattern of habitual actions that cease to be about life, but instead are about survival.


So any negative feelings are a symptom of this ';rut';. In order to move forward, their are retreats for every person, so I suggest you consider this, and find some solid coaching to quickly tap into what it is that creates passion for you. It is only through this self-discovery that you can move forward. Overcome the fear, and you will gain life.
Only if they're not in love.
You can be bored after 2 years.





Remember, variety is the spice of life.





Do different things to keep your life and love alive!
No it is not. Getting bored with each other is a clear sign of not loving your spouse.