Average, about once a week.How often do couples in a healthy relationship have sex?
A lot more often than that, for sure! Most newlyweds probably average once or twice a day, even older ones. If there's no physical attraction, then I don't quite understand getting married in the first place. To each, his/her own, I guess.
Something is obviously wrong. I believe atleast 1-2 times per week is healthy. Although it may not work out that way w/work schedules, etc...
Sounds like he has a problem. I've been married 21 years and we have still have sex at least 2 times a week.
My marriage is a very healthy one. We've been married since Feb of 04. We're both completely happy and satisfied with each other, both physically and emotionally.
However, we don't ';do it like bunnies';. We get intimate maybe once every 2 weeks or so. We just had a baby in October so that kinda sets things back as I'm always way to tired, but even before the baby, it was that. Marriage isn't based on sex, although, it is nice to have :) If he's not willing to talk about it, I'm not sure whatelse you could try. Try suducing him...my husband loves it. Get some sexy clothes, dim the lights, light the candles, and get it on :) Take charge, maybe that is what he is looking for.
Good luck :)
In holland the stats are said to be 140 times per year. But hey, don't care about average. Do you both have little experience with having a sex partner? then it is completely normal that the start can be awkward. Most peoples first sex experiences are not at all what they hoped them to be. Work on other things in your relationship, sounds like he is not confident in bed, maybe he will be when he is confident about other things. It would be good i think if you can just talk about everything, so start with telling eachother a lot. About childhood, parents, what you are interested in, how both your images of a wedding are. What are your expectations? Do you communicate these, or do you just expect that he knows how your view on marriage is, that his is exacly the same. No couple is the same, so i think it is good to have an open talk about both your needs, and your wishes about the other on how he/she can fulfill those needs. It is not only the sex, maybe that is just a springoff. share all your feelings. And try to keep things to yourself: ';i need physical contact'; ';i need affirmation'; ';i need to express my feelings';. it is up to him to fulfill those needs or not, you cannot expect or demand, only ask, and be willing to get a no if he doesn't want to. Think on your expectations of a marriage, and realize that no marriage is the same, so you'll have to tell eachother your wishes, but can never expect things to be just because you are married.
Have a good time together,
Dr. Aram
i think what is classed as a healthy sex life depends on the couple. if you are both happy and it works for you then thats healthy. if one or niether of you are happy then there may be a problem. a sex guidence counsellor may help. try talking to eachother about what you would like from sex. take a weekend away to spoil yourselves and be close to eachother, share an activity you both enjoy and make time for eachother. good luck! xx
Are you trying to get things started with him? Maybe you need to take the lead and make the first moves. Stop talking and do something. My hubby and I have been married eight years, we do it two or three times a week.
As often as they want to. Everyone is different. There could be an emotional problem like performance anxiety. You could try reading a good book on the subject. Best wishes.
It's different for every couple and you shouldn't judge your own relationship bases on how frequently other couple do it. If it really bothers you, talk to your partner or try couseling.
Major red flag that you did not have sex for so long before marriage, assuming nothing such as a belief system was stopping you. I say you go to a sex therapist to diagnose the issue. It's the most important thing in a marriage, unless you just want a friend and roommate. Find out what the problem is. My suspicion is your husband knows but is afraid to say.
average is twice a week I think
for healthy couples I think once a day on average is best
My ex-wife and I on average had sex about 2 - 3 times a week. The girl I am currently dating and I have sex about 1 - 2 times a day.
My husband and I have a great relationship. We have sex at least 3 times a week. There are things that come into play that prevent it sometimes. For instance we have two children at home. I am also pregnant. However, you have to have some kind of communication. There is obviously something lacking somewhere that needs to be resolved. Set down and find a happy medium.
i dont think there is an average, i think that its is not normal to have it more often, it donsent seem like has changed any from before u were married then u knew what u were getting in to. but if he has changed. then it could be something more serious. good luck and hope all works out.
Don't dwell on other people's frequencies. We all have different needs. i.e. for me your sex life is almost like celibate. Concentrate instead on what you and your partner needs...forget what others are doing, you are not in competition here.
You need to talk together about it. You are not in a competition with other couples - so what they get up to is neither here nor there!
We have sex one to three times a day and have been married 8 years.
remember every couple is different for many reasons, anyways my partner and I have sex twice a day or atleast some form of sexual interaction. In previous relationships and from what I have generally heard i'd say atleast once every other day, and hell usually in the beginning or the honeymoon stage 3 times a day until it dies down again with my current partner that just doesnt die down and thank God he has incredible control anyways the norm to me is 2-3 times in the beginning a day and then atleast once every other day thereafter, Good Luck(something is not right here) maybe something he isnt telling you and if thats the case its still not right because your his wife and he should tell you so you understand I mean if there was a legit problem then you could accept it I mean you dont marry for that reason alone but if nothing is medically wrong its not cool, communication, Kim
A lot more frequently than this!
Are you telling me it was months before you got married since you had sex, and you didn't have it on your wedding night?
This is highly unusual, and unless your husbnd is 70 years old, it might be possible that his needs are being met elsewhere.....even pssibly another man. Good luck.
Well I'm not married but I've read articles on this subject and just to comment on one of the answers it is not uncommon for couples to not have sex on their wedding night, between the stress of the ';big day'; and the weeks leading up to it you would both be tired and that is understandable. As for how often you are now having sex i would say you need to press the point here, make him talk about it. I would also think back to before you guys got married and see who had to actually initiate ';cuddling';. Maybe he's just one of those guys who wants the woman to take the lead in that area. All I can say other than that is good luck
Well, I'd have to say more than you two are, at least at this point in the game. Instead of talking about it, why don't you do something to initiate it. Create a romantic atmosphere, perhaps wear something provocative, and then POUNCE!! If you two are alone and you feel in the mood, don't tell them, just go up and start kissing, but very passionately.. Sex is not the only part of a relationship, but when it is lacking the relationship can suffer, so do both of you a favor, and start making reasons for it to happen.
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