Why do some couples insist on getting married after only dating for a year and a half or LESS????

what is the point of that? itll only end up in divorce....theres no way u can really know someone after a year and a half or less!Why do some couples insist on getting married after only dating for a year and a half or LESS????
It is called infatuation. There was a song written about young love and this topic. Love is blind for a time, but when the pheromones wear off it can be ugly! I think it could be loneliness, and naivety!Why do some couples insist on getting married after only dating for a year and a half or LESS????
I understand what you are saying, but, that really is not the case statistically with everyone who dates for less than 2 years. The truth is that those who live together are more likely the ones whose marriages end in a divorce.





It just maybe that the couples who know right away they ';click'; are just spending the next 1.5 years after meeting to be sure that marriage ';is'; the thing to do. There are actually people who ';click'; right away and spend the longest time they can being apart to find out if this is the real thing or not. So, they cannot wait longer than 2 years. But, what about couples that still are NOT sure after 3 or 4 or 5 years of being together and stay together unsure or unready and making no moves to change? I mean, if you are not ready to marry that person, why are you in getting involved deeper in the dating relationship, marriage is ';warts and all'; so if you love someone lack of finances, better schooling, and others things can and do work out if you want to be together. It's what sacrifice, compromise and commitment are all about. Timing is a good thing or bad thing, in that, if you take too little, it can make you feel pressured and cause friction and frustration if you are not financially stable or emotionally ready. (Yes, some of the 1.5 couples are under this category...and those marriages can fail) And it's a great for those who are, because when you are, you just are, and nothing not even time, can hold back the inevitable. (some of the 1.5 couples are under this category...and those marriages can thrive)





But that is each couple's individual decision that they have to live with.
maybe thats what parents did





or best friend did it


dont want to feel left out


i see your point but its exiting
Because that is their choice. They have determined for their selves that are sure about what it is they want.





There are no guarantees in life and nothing is writting in stone. It is wise to get to know someone, how long that takes depends on how open the person is and how honest.





Marrying early is no guarantee that you will be divorced and marrying after 5 years or more is no guarantee you will stay married. what makes a marriage work is the two people involved being committed to making it work and doing what it takes to keep it together. Marriage like any other relationship takes work and you get out of it what you put in.
I started dating my hubby, got engaged and married all in the same year. We are still married after 3 years, some people are willing to work at marriage and some people arent and thats what it boils down to. It doesn't matter about length of time, as you get older, you'll realize that , what is important, is if within yourself, you are willing to work on it if problems arise.
That is a good question. But maybe I can answer it another way.


You asked what is the point? Especially when they


will be divorced in a couple of years anyway.





The reason the divorce rate is so high is no mystery


or some random arbitrary thing that happens to couples


for no reason.





One of the key reasons that marraiges dont work anymore


is because of radical feminism and selfishness. You see


no less than 50 years ago a woman was considered to


be special, and men and women knew these differences


very well. It had nothing to do with subservience, women


where regarded with honor and respect and where treasured


by their mates. But this is largely gone. why?





When the radical feminist movement came into full force


we shouted '; we are equal with men!'; werent we always?


If not superior? But the fact is we are not men, this has


nothing to do with being sexist we just are not men.


That is why women refuse to have doors opened for them


or men tip their hats at them but at the same time whine


about their husbands not being ';Chivalrous';. Marriages


fall apart because men and women no longer know how


to relate to each other, we regard femininity as some


sort of disease and we must act like the crudest of


men to be equal and compete with them.





But it was this'; femininity'; that inspired men to be


chivalrous, to give thier lives up for, to defend her


honor. It was this mystique that kept male sexual


behavior in check and made boys into gentlemen


But now that we have done away with that what


do we have? Sky rocketing rape statistics, stalking,


rampant stds, violence towards women, over 50%


divorce rate, children out of wedlock, abortions, stalking,


and sexual harassment.





Our grandparents knew nothing of these things


when they were courting ( by the way which we


don't do we ';hook up'; ) what we dont understand


is this world has become violent and MORE


disrespectful to women, MORE hostile to


women. When women threw away their modesty


femininity, and honor they lost alot. We have the


true power , we have the power to civilize entire


nations. But until we do we will still suffer from high


divorce rates, husbands who are insensitive (because


we have trained them to believe it is sexist to do


otherwise ), infidelity, lack of romance etc etc.





Women used to have power, we no longer do.
If it's against their religion to engage in premarital relations, then they might get married in a hurry. I know several people who have done this. Lots of Mormons.
I completely agree, and if they are getting married its only out of convenience, be it for money or some other reason, but it's almost never a result of true love
The duration of the dating period alone is not an indicator of marital success. Your theory is naive (uninformed by data).
i agree. no one can get married too late, only too early.
lust is the reason. and over the whole years together you realize more and more of yourself (you will always mature into your nature). most people after maturing sees their mate as something different and gives up on them because their mate doesn't have that flame anymore. that is because even tho you have the start flame going doesn't mean it will have the end flame to keep it together. i would go into detail with it all but you may not like hearing about horoscopes.
but you can know what they believe and how they would act in most situations.





if you truly try, you can get to know someone well enough in about 6 months that you could know whether or not to marry them.





many people have gotten married after dating only a short time, and they stay married until they die.
Actually, there's no way you can really know anyone, no matter how long you date. Marriage is going to be a big risk no matter how long you wait. I agree that the longer you can wait, the better.


Also, it's worth considering that the older someone gets, the more they know themselves and what they want out of life, so generally the older people the faster they'll know what they want out of a relationship.





I guess the important thing to keep in mind is that marriage is a big risk regardless of how long you've know the person, but at some point you grow to love someone enough that you decide it's worth the risk.
Well, apparently you could say that most marriages end in divorce no matter how long you ';date';! So you are half right.


There is really no way you ';know'; a person even after being married to them for 10 years.


People are complex. THey only reveal their true selves over many, many years.


For instance, my husband would have never told me when we were dating that he stuggles with selfishness. Its only now, after over 5 years of marriage that we have been dealing with that.


We met in Sept. got engaged in Dec and married in March! A total of 6 months from the day we met.


Maybe its more about a persons readiness to committ to something and be loyal and devoted than it is how well you know someone.
i got married very quickly and though I'm quite happy. the divorce reason is not a reason to not get married...i know people who have lived together then got married and 6 years later got divorced. I've known others married 15 years and divorced...how long you know someone prior to marriage is no GUARANTEE that you will stay married...





all of my acquaintances who got married in 1990 like me have gotten divorced...only one other couple are still married. out of 13 couples...








its not about time....its about ATTITUDE!
I think that all depends on the couple. When you really think about it, it can take a lifetime to learn, evolve and understand a significant other. If you can agree on your fundamental goals in life, you can make any marriage work. If people have the understanding that marriage is a lifelong commitment and want to stick to that a year and a half may be plenty. I know people who have dated for 10 years and were divorced after 6 month of marriage. It's all about the expectations, compromise and execution of fundamental love.
With that attitude, you absolutely should not marry after a year and a half of dating. I have no idea about other people. I do think when couples marry, the word divorce should be taken out of their vocabulary. Why do anything with a defeatist's attitude? You're sure to lose if you start with a negative point of view. However, I happen to believe that it is ';better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.'; Love is a wonderful thing that defies all attempts of giving a solid definition, but should be pursued regardless. There are way too many haters in this world as it is.
my husband and i got married in the army after having known each other 5 months. we have a 3 year old son and have been married 5 years. we're doing well.


people can end up in divorce that dated for years. it depends on the people and the relationship. not the time together.


my husband and i have moved 5 times, have been deployed to kuwait together, and he recently got back from iraq. a lot of stress, but we're doing really well for ourselves.